Chapter 39: A world-class variety store owner on Korean culture, connecting community, and cultivating calm

I visited my favorite local flower shop / convenience store and sat down with the owner, So Young.

I visited my favorite local flower shop / convenience store and sat down with the owner, So Young.

Have you ever developed a relationship with your local corner shop owner?

Maybe you pop into a convenience store every day to grab a drink or you walk into the same coffee shop every afternoon.

Me and Soyoung in front of her shop!

Me and Soyoung in front of her shop!

Leslie and I have developed a relationship with Soyoung Kim, a beautiful, kind, Korean woman who has run the corner store by our house for years.

My wife Leslie has long trained me to buy her fresh flowers every week. And I always buy them from Soyoung’s shop.

Soyoung reads 50 books per year and credits them to helping her form her identity and better understand English when she first immigrated to Canada.

A selfie of me and Soyoung

A selfie of me and Soyoung

I asked Soyoung to come on 3 Books to share her three most formative books and we grabbed two milk crates and sat down in the garden center at the side of her store.

I hope you enjoy this talk with Soyoung Kim as much as I did.

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What You'll Learn:

  • Why do older siblings often feel pressure to take care of the family?

  • How can we learn to take care of ourselves when we’re responsible for taking care of others?

  • Who should take care of us when we grow older?

  • How can we learn to empty our minds on a daily basis?

  • Why should we place less importance on money?

Ideas Worth SHARING:

“I don’t want to be amateur. When I’m working in one place, I want to do my best.” Soyoung Kim #3bookspodcast

“I try to empty my mind every day.” Soyoung Kim #3bookspodcast

“On my last day, I wish I don’t have anything left with me. I’d like to spend all of my energy and, whatever I have, I want to have spent before I die.” Soyoung Kim #3bookspodcast

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Chapter 38: Ryan Holiday on bashing beachy books and building balance

I flew to Austin, Texas to sit down with Ryan Holiday and discuss his most formative books.

I flew to Austin, Texas to sit down with Ryan Holiday and discuss his most formative books.

Back in 2013 I stumbled on an article online called “How To Read More — A Lot More” by some writer guy on the Internet named Ryan Holiday.

I started reading the piece and got sucked into it. He had a point! A great point. Many great points, actually. And he was super young. A young man telling the world to read more books? In an era where most guys read none… or, you know, like three books a year?

Me and Ryan with … you guessed it, books!

Me and Ryan with … you guessed it, books!

I found Ryan Holiday to be a complete breath of fresh air.

So I immediately began to copy everything he did.

He launched a monthly book club.

I launched a monthly book club! (With his blessings, of course.)

He was talking about reading fifty then a hundred books a year.

I started to read five books then ten books then fifty books a year.

I started cancelling magazine and newspaper subscriptions and began to consciously put my phone away. I installed a bookshelf at my front door and cancelled cable.

And, of course, I started this podcast!

Ryan and his most prized possessions.

Ryan and his most prized possessions.

In a way 3 Books would not exist without Ryan Holiday. I can trace my rediscovered passion for reading all the way back to this writer guy from the Internet.

But he’s not just a writer guy on the Internet anymore.

Ryan Holiday has sold over 2,000,000 books (!) and essentially leads the repopularization of stoic philosophy on a mass scale. Some of his books include The Obstacle Is The Way, Ego Is The Enemy, and his brand new book, Stillness Is The Key.

Ryan also runs DailyStoic.com, the consulting company Brass Check, and his newest project Daily Dad.

He’s become a friend and I have definitely caught his bug.

So in Chapter 38 of 3 Books I ask Ryan to share his four most formative books. (You’ll hear why on the show.) He tells us how to decide who to trust, how he got dramatically fired from his first job, and why we shouldn’t turn parenting into a job.

I hope you enjoy Chapter 38 with Ryan Holiday.

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What You'll Learn:

  • Why should you spoil the endings of books and movies?

  • How do we win the war for attention?

  • Why does the path you take toward a goal matter more than achieving the goal itself?

  • How and why should you not turn parenting into a job?

Ideas Worth SHARING:

“We are not set up well as people to defend ourselves against malignant bad actors.” @RyanHoliday #3bookspodcast

“MSNBC’s goal is to glue you to a television screen to sell you Subarus.” @RyanHoliday #3bookspodcast

“I am very worried that mediocre people are going to squash the specialness out of my kid.” @RyanHoliday #3bookspodcast

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